Let’s Be Honest.

#mothersoffduty

I’m in the mood for something different.

I’ve got dark circles under my eyes and my face lacks color, but I don’t want to discuss ways to freshen up my beauty routine. I’m wearing clothing, but I don’t want to tell you how to “get the look.” Do you crave something more like I do? Superficiality is fun and lord knows there’s a place for it in bloggerdom (i.e. my Pinterest feed!), but I find myself seeking more. What, though? Honesty? Depth? Reality? Community? Connections? Heart? Sincerity? Grit? Creativity? All of those things, and probably more. Let’s start with honesty.

I started this blog as more of a fashion blog, and mostly all I’d do was outfit posts. That no longer is my main inspiration. Fashion, honestly, is not as important as it casts itself to be. Fashion is only money. Style is a word I like better, because it comes from within. It’s a way of doing things.

This blog documents how I style my life. Every photo and word I choose to include, cut, or edit reflects how I wish to be perceived. Isn’t that strange? Or is it just something we do in the year 2014, and I should just get over it? But I bring it up because obviously the full picture of my life doesn’t look like my blog. My house is mostly always a mess. There is old food particles in my sink drain. There’s hair that I’ve shed on every floor in every room (I have tons of hair and I’ve accepted this as a fact of life). I live in a suburban one-highway town filled with strip malls and chain stores. I have a very strict budget I stick to, and not a ton of that is allocated to new clothing. I spend most of my time with my family, not at all the cool, new “it” places to go. Just so you know.

The big attraction to bloggers has been the mystique and promise of a much more glamorous (and romanticized) life. I’m 100 percent guilty of this from both the side of the blogger and the side of the consumer. It’s so easy to romanticize things. I’m probably doing it right now. However, I won’t stop doing it. My blog is an outlet for my creativity, and part of that is seeking, finding, creating, and defining what I think is beautiful. Each post is a dream of how I’d like things to be, even when I’m confessing my truths.

“There’s no one thing that’s true. It’s all true.” -Ernest Hemingway

Even things that are fake inform us more about the truth. That is how the moments I stage and the thoughts I confess can coexist together. It’s all true.

Let's be honest.Let's be honest.Let's be honest.Let's be honest.Let's be honest.Photos by Lady Go Lightly. Shot at Anthem in Tacoma, WA.

23 Comments
  1. I’m almost afraid to step out of the superficial side of my blog, and I know it has many light topics. But there are SO many people that read my website now. My husband parents even. So talking about trying to get pregnant, my fears of being unable to concieve, it’s just hard and scary to be putting it out there when I’m so private with my… well, private life.

  2. Such a great post. I try to be very open on my blog and share how flawed I am because it’s such a part of me and the wanting to be better is part of why I blog. So being open holds me accountable.

  3. I have to admit I feel this all the time. Although I do try to stay away from the superficialness of the blogging world, it drags you into and the current is seriously strong! I do try and be as open as possible on my blog, but you know my friends have been telling me more and more with ways to change it so that it will become more popular. A friend keeps forcing down my throat that I should be blogging about makeup because that’s how you become popular! I’m rubbish with makeup, I barely know how to use it!

    There’s a quote I love that goes ‘I’m going to make everything around me beautiful, that will be my life’ I guess in a way. this is why I blog!

    Katie <3

  4. 1. These photos of you are gorgeous. 2. I’m feeling the exact same way lately. Day in and day out of “stuff” is getting hard to handle. I’ve been slowly changing my blog to lifestyle as well. And also focusing on the word style while I do things. I can’t always be perfect, and I don’t want to pretend to be. Instead Im just sharing my life and how I’m living it.

    xoxo
    Candace
    http://www.FromCtoC.com

  5. This is really beautiful, thank you for being so honest. I am guilty of only posting the positives on my blog too – but that’s because it’s something I want to be able to look back on and enjoy… not dread… reading!

  6. I really enjoyed this post so insightful and thought provoking. I think its something us bloggers and people who do’t blog struggle with. This day in age, we only want to share the best of us. The beauty of life is that there are ups and downs, and its ultimately our choice of what we want to share of it.

  7. Hopping over here from Misadventures With Andi — this post has found me at just the right time. I have reinvented my blog so many times — always trying to pay homage to the original theme of Generation X. Gen X irony and sarcasm has worn me slick and in an effort to give the generation’s experience a voice, I too often lost my own. So, I’m down with that no more and on to greater simplicity – just my story day in and day out. I love this sentence: “Each post is a dream of how I’d like things to be, even when I’m confessing my truths.” And, I love how you explain fashion. A beautiful post – a great blog. I’ve added you to my Feedly.

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